Technically, I haven't really learned how to tune yet. Spend ridiculous amounts of money, prevent two running vehicles from fitting in 2-car garages, building, breaking, weeping uncontrollably, struggling with rage issues, and wallowing in regret - these are all things I learned to do by spending time online chatting with other gearheads on forums like this one. It's also where I learned a lot of the professional skills I needed to land my current job in knowledge management for a Fortune 500, but there aren't many gearheads interested in that angle.
I have played with DSMlink before, and from the little experience I've had with it, I like it a lot, but I've decided to go speed density on an Evo 8 ECU with my race car. Wasn't an easy decision to make, either. I'm fortunate to count John (toybreaker) among my mentors, and he laid out a strong case for 'Link in a rally car. Link is pretty much the standard for 4G63T tuning going on, what, a decade, now? There are hundreds of people actively participating on Link forums to help each other nail down just about any issue you can think of. Link doesn't require hacking the harness. If the ECU shits the bed, chances are you can score a stock DSM ECU and get the car through the race or at least home. Plenty of reasons to go with DSMlink, imo.
But link is also $425-$545. I picked up my 2001 Eclipse RS MT ECU for $125. Looks like the cable to flash it is about $150. That's $275. It involves hacking the harness, but I'm in the process of re-building the harness anyway, so that's moot. There aren't as many people running these ECUs in DSMs/GVR4s, but there are a lot of Evo tuners out these days - far more than DSM, anyway. There also seem to be more Evos at the tracks than DSMs these days, too. In the end, I have more time than money, so I'm going the Evo ECU route.
On to actual tuning, well, I've never even had a car on the dyno before (haven't had any need), but with this car, I'll be taking it in for a nice tune which leaves 20-25% on the table so I can flog the sh*t out of it without worrying about blowing it up.